My husband and I have attended several Amish weddings. An Amish wedding is similar to a regular Amish church and goes on for 3 hours or more. There are songs, preaching by several mininsters, prayers, and of course the reciting of the wedding vows. There is no exchange of rings, and the groom doesn't kiss the brides, as a tradition in our modern, English wedding services. What do you think about the Amish way of getting married? Would you be disappointed if you were an Amish bride and didn't receive a kiss from your groom after you'd said your vows, or do you feel the first kiss of marriage should be reserved for when the bride and groom are alone?
I don't think I would be disappointed if he did not kiss me then, as it not done and I would feel it is the right thing to "not do" until we were alone. I wonder if that is how most Amish feel? I went to an Amish reception once and was very intrigued by it. I sat with the sister and her husband of the bride as this sister was not Amish anymore. She married someone not Amish, and had to sit with the "Englishers" at her sister's reception. That seemed very strange to me! I wonder how the bride really felt about it?
At the first Amish supper my husband and I attended we were the only "Englishers" at our table and we sat with a group of Amish women and children. During another wedding supper a year or so later we sat with some English folks who were related to the groom. We sat with both Amish and English at the last wedding supper we went to. At all the wedding services, as well as the wedding meals we've attended, we've felt welcome, and the other Englishers present seemed to be too. We have seen the bride and groom kiss during the evening wedding meal, when coaxed to do so by their well-meaning friends.
I would perfer to have a Amish wedding over my own wedding. I'm not Amish, but somedays I wish I was. I'm 3/4 Italian and the rest is mixed. Every summer growing up, I lived less than a mile from a amish community. I hated to go home when the summer was over. Then when I was 18, I was forced into a wedding. My wedding was a mess, I had 6 fights at my wedding. But I learned to love my husband, after a while. I have attended 4 Amish weddings.
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